"I've always dreamed of being an old philosopher. So far I've achieved one out of two!"

Gerry and Pam Reid's BS for a Great Marriage

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From the I was Just Thinking About BS, Yours is Great Newsletter
Vol. 1 No. 4, September, 1991. Copyright 1991 Gerry Reid, all rights reserved.


My wife Pam and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary on June 25, 1991. "Thank You" to the many of you who remembered us. BSer Jan wrote "I hope you will share your BS for a happy marriage in one of your newsletters." Well Jan, here goes (There is a scoring system for rating your own marriage.):

Gerry and Pam's 20 Belief Systems for a Blessed Spousehood

  • Big Smiles - Say "I Love You" every day.
  • Bear Squeezes - Give hugs every day.
  • Balanced Schedule - Make time for each other.
  • Byword Signature - A code just between the two of you.
  • Babble Simply - Argue with intelligence and respect.
  • Blame Self - Admit when you are wrong.
  • Banquet Spreads - Go out to dinner once a month.
  • Bare Soul - Be the closest of friends, cry together.
  • Block Sarcasm - Communicate calmly and honestly.
  • Battle Sincerely - Agree to disagree, agreeably.
  • Be Seductive - Clothing, cologne, champagne, Chopin.
  • Beautiful Sex - Take time and make love well.
  • Boundless Secrets - Share your inner thoughts.
  • Broadcast Support - Publicly praise each other.
  • Buttock Strokes - Love pats whenever you pass.
  • Beautify Spouse - Adorn each other w/gifts and trinkets.
  • Balmy Seashores - One vacation and two weekend getaways every year.
  • Be Spontaneous - Be willing to do things on the spur of the moment.
  • Bypass Sermons - Your BS might NOT be the best!
  • Believe Success - and you will achieve it.

Rate yourself on how often you apply each BS item in your marriage.

5 = Always

4 = Most of the time

3 = Usually

2 = Every so often

1 = Seldom

0 = Never

Score yourself as follows:

80-100 You are very wise! (or are newlyweds.)

60-79 Keep working on it!

40-59 Get some help.

20-39 Get a lawyer.

0-29 Get a good lawyer!

Here are some thoughts of what you can do with this BS:

1) Score yourself.

2) Score your spouse.

3) Have your spouse score themselves.

4) Have your spouse score you.

5) Discuss the results of 1-4 with each other. How can you improve your low scores? How can you maintain the highs?

6) Come up with a mutually acceptable rating, a consensus between the two of you. Create a written plan to improve all items not rated a 5.

7) Post the plan and make it happen.

8) Let us in on your ideas!

Gerry Reid Speaking
4333 Essex Court
Suite 105
Flower Mound, TX 
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